Way to get a girl in junior high school or especially in high school

What follows are some tips and strategies to get a girlfriend as early as middle school. If you're new to dating, or if this is your first try, these tips depending on how you use them can help you get the girl you've had your eye on!

The Steps you need to do

• Find out her name, and learn whatever else is available about her. (ex. Name, phone number, address, e-mail address, class schedule, her friends, etc...) This information will definitely come in handy later. Especially information that will help you contact her outside of school.
  
  
• Ask yourself if you like her for the person she is? This means personality, interests, and so on. Of course, you might not know these things about her yet. If all you know about her is how she looks, then looks alone are fine for now. But remember, as things move on, who she is as a person is most important. Respect her for who she is. If at any point you do not like the way she does things or acts, then it's time to think about finding someone else.
  
  
• Let her see you seeing her. Snag a few glances at her during class, sometimes she might look, if she does try to smile at her until she breaks the stare. If it's held more than 3 seconds, break it. Then try later that day.
  
  
• Walk beside her when you have the chance. But, don't do it in a way that is uncomfortable or seems strange. It works against you if you're making her feel uncomfortable about it. Instead, pick a time when it will seem natural and comfortable to both of you.
  
  
• Look for chances to talk to her. When you have one, throw some humor into the conversation. But don't just change the subject to one you like. Remember, you are already interested in her. Your goal, is to get her to be interested in you.
  
  
• This means you want to talk about subjects she likes, so long as you are able to make it worth her time to talk to you. If you can't, try a subject you both like; but remember what she likes is more important than what you like. You only need to like it enough to give her a conversation she will enjoy.
  
  
• If you have school dances or a friend of yours is having a party where dancing is included, ask this girl to slow dance for a song. This will let the girl know that your interested in her, but do not annoy her by asking her over and over.
  
  
• Show interest in her as a person. The key to getting a person interested in you is to be interested in them. (You should be interested anyways if you followed step one.) But, be careful about questions which make her uncomfortable. Everyone has things which they will only feel comfortable sharing when a certain level of trust is formed.
  
  
• The best way to start a conversation is to ask about something commonly important to everyone (ex. lunch, or a social event), then comment on it, from there the conversation should bloom. If it doesn't, try using a different subject.
  
  
• Call her sometimes just to talk.
  
  
• Read her body language. If she feels uncomfortable about something, guide the conversation to something else. However, don't stick to super safe subjects like what she did that day. If she stops talking, see what happens when you restart the conversation with a new subject. Whatever happens, always pay attention to her response.
  
  
• Find out how she feels about you. She won't go out with you if she doesn't like you. A good way to find out is to talk to her friends. There is no need to "make the friend promise not to tell"; this only makes the whole situation feel uncomfortable and silly. They will probably tell her anyways, and on top of that tell her you wanted to hide it from her. That would not be good.
• Instead, ask with confidence to show confidence. If her friend tells her you're interested it could help your chances. Maybe she feels the same way about you and was waiting to find out for sure. It might even put some interest for you into her. If you're comfortable enough to do it without looking nervous, ask her yourself.
  
  
• Or else, just look at how she acts. By now you should already be talking to her. Pay attention to whether or not she continues the conversation or seems interested. Notice if she puts aside important tasks, or delays personal needs for a short time, just to continue talking to you.
  
  
• Once something else become pressing enough to make her leave, let her leave and watch for when and how she returns. Does she delay leaving as long as she can, then return to you quickly? Or does she leave over the smallest reason, and not seem too concerned about returning?
  
  
• Give her what the steps above got for you. Once you are both in a good, satisfying conversation that you both enjoy, sometime in the middle of it, ask her to contact you and give her a way to do it. Hopefully this will give her a sign that you like her, and she will call you. When she does, tell her how you really feel. Once you think she likes you ask her if she wants hang out or catch a movie or something.
  
  
• Try to be friends first, but don't let it stay this way too long. You don't want to make her uncomfortable by trying to push her into something she is not ready for. At the same time, if she is waiting for you to make the next move you don't want her to loose interest and end up with someone else. After you've been talking to her for a while, and have become a good friend, start acting a bit more flirty. Call her sweet names, or say she's your best friend. Give her a chance to open up if she is the shy type.
  
  
• Note her personality. Everyone likes different things, what attracts one person might push another away. If you and her have similar personalities, think of things in about the same way, or have similar interests - you're in good luck. If not, you can try to adjust yourself to her. But if it doesn't seem right, maybe it is a sign she is not the right one for you.
• Show that you are a good sport That doesn't mean "good at sports"; it means "a good sport". If you two were in a contest, for whatever reason, compliment her even if she wins. Remember, you want to win her heart, not the contest. This means you want to keep some things balanced.
  
  
• If you are exceptionally good at something, and she is not, let her beat you once in a while. Not enough to make yourself look weak, but enough to show you can handle it when you fail. On the other hand, if you are the one who is exceptionally bad, and she is exceptionally good, make it a point to beat her once in a while. Not enough to make her upset, just enough to show you are a capable person. Always remember to compliment her when the compliment is true.
  
  
• Take her advice, then make the best decision from it. If she tells you to do something (that's within reason!!!) do it. Such as getting a certain outfit, haircut, new binder, etc... This will let her know that you actually pay attention to her, so she won't be left in the darkness. But, don't let it seem like you cannot think for yourself. You want her to know that you are able to listen to her, understand her, and consider her in your decisions. But, you don't want her to feel like you have no thoughts of your own, or that you only pretend to agree because she told you to.
  
  
• Be a like-able form of...your self. Nobody likes a mean guy, even if he is popular. But a guy who is always "sweetie and niceness" is a guy most girls will only want as "just a friend". A real person with real feelings is both more believable and easier to be anyways. Your goal is to be like-able to her, which of course depends on what she likes. Not what you like, and not what anyone else likes either. Pay attention to how she reacts to the way people behave, because everyone is different. But always act the way that most benefits her at the time.
  
  
• Show that you're concerned about her and can notice how she feels. One thing we all like is someone who cares!
  
  
• Flirt! Smile at her, wave at her when she comes into a room, give her a thumbs-up if she gets a question right in class. Talk to her, but not only in a friendly way. If she looks tired, smile and say, "You look tired today."
  
  
• Once you know she truly likes you as a person, make your move to make her your girlfriend. Tell her straight up how you feel. Something like "I think you are beautiful, and I like you a lot." works very well. Or, if you aren't brave enough to do this, you can just ask her, "Do you want to go out?" That's simple enough and works fine, too.
  
  
• When she makes her decision about if she wants to get together, respect her decision even if she says no (remember this). And if she says yes, pat yourself on the back, you have succeeded!

Importaint Notes

There is no reason to be afraid of going out with a girl who has big boobs, is deliberately sexy, or likes to flirt with guys.

However, it is important these things not be the only reason for liking her.Physical attraction is the start of a relationship, but by itself it cannot make the relationship last.

Unless you also like her as a person you're only wasting her time as well as your own. Things will never work out if you're just using her. She might not blame you personally, depending on the kind of girl she is; but if you're only with her for her looks, expect to be dumped as soon as a guy with more serious feelings comes her way.

If you've known her for a while before realizing you like her, don't change your style ever!! A fake person, even if they do everything right, will never be as attractive as a real person who does some things wrong. If she already knows how you are it's ok to improve yourself, but never, ever, try to fake yourself.

Don't give yourself up for her. Don't change your whole life just for her. Make some sacrifices, but think of what you would give away to have her. And ask yourself if she really wants someone who would give away his soul over one little date. If she does, do you really want to be with her?

Talk! Instant messaging and Google talk are "OK" but not as good as in person. As much as is practical, talk to her in person more than you talk to her online.

It is a matter of quality. Talking in person is a higher quality kind of talking, and is worth the cost in effort when ever you can afford the effort.

Always listen. Listen when you are talking. Listen, listen, and listen. Oh, and don't forget...listen!

Timing is everything Although it will matter less once the relationship is established, in the beginning the right time, right place, and right mood can make all the difference in how she reacts. This is especially true of choosing the best time for "turning points". Example, when you ask her out for the "first date", or when you ask her to go from "just friend" to "girlfriend".

Patience is a huge virtue in flirting and getting a girlfriend. Don't let yourself get dull if it's taking a while.If she is short on money for a snack at the concession stand, or for something you find out she wants or likes, pay the difference for her or pay for it all the way. But don't over extend yourself and end up unable to pay for other stuff later.

Notice things she likes so you can surprise her with a special lunch or going to a fancy restaurant she'll like.

Notice her favorite foods. If she likes chocolate give her some on a day she feels down. If she is allergic to milk and has always wanted to try chocolate, search on a website because you can order milk-free chocolate. But it doesn't end with chocolate, make note of everything she likes and doesn't like. Remember to pay attention to her choices, it's about what she likes not what some other girls like or what you like. Also, variety. The same thing every time gets old.

Offer her things she likes to eat at random, but avoid having a pattern. Make this type of thing a pleasant, but unpredictable, surprise.

Never give her things she is allergic to. And don't expect to get away with saying you didn't know. Of course, saying you didn't know is better than nothing; but if you were paying attention to the steps above you should already know what she is allergic to and what to avoid.

Give her other things she will like, such as necklaces or rings. Start with what you already know she likes or wants. Next, things you know she has an existing need for, or that will make things she already does better or easier in some way.

Remember, useful things she has a use for. Not useful things you have a use for.

The second biggest mistake men make is buying utility items they think are cool, which their girl has no interest in.

But, the even bigger mistake is giving girls useless pretty things because some men believe in a stereo-type that says "women prefer pretty things over useful things."

The truth is, your girl wants things that are useful to her for things she likes to do.
If she happens to be a carpenter power tools are fine, but chances are she is not a carpenter.
Find out what she likes to do, and use it to discover what she would want.

You are not trying to date yourself, you are not trying to date others who give you advice, and you not trying to date some other girl...you are trying to date one specific, unique, individual girl...her.

It's not about what you want, or what a TV show says girls want, it's about what she wants!

Stay in contact at all times. The worst mistake is to not talk to her over the summer, or other extended period of time.

Remember the 3 C's:

Comfort - Let her know she can always come to you if she needs a shoulder to cry on.

Compliment - Tell her how pretty she is. It is much better if you tell her and she doesn't ask you, like, if she has a pretty shirt. Of course, if she asks, give her the most positive honest answer you can. But, you want to tell her without her having to ask, "what do you think of my shirt?"

Confidence - Confidence does not always mean aggression, bravery, or not having fear. In fact, not having fear when a normal person would have fear can equal "an act" or foolishness. Confidence means how ever you act, what ever you do, how ever you really feel, you believe you are capable of doing your best, there is a way for things to work out, and you are not too scared to make well thought choices or let your feelings show.

When asking a girl out, don't be nervous. It will either make your crush even more nervous, or think she can find someone better, and can cause her to say no.

Never give other girls more attention than her. Some girls have trouble dealing with competition. Others are excited by the challenge. But no one wants to feel ignored. Make sure she gets more attention than the others, and if she still reacts poorly just stop giving other girls attention altogether.